When you read advice columns, you find people writing in to ask questions that are trivially dispensed with. At age 70, none of their questions lack an immediate answer. One thing that I have learned after decades of life is how to resolve apparent dilemmas. Most people imprison themselves with fallacious rules. Life does not work the way you think it does; it is far less structured. The Eagles had it right when the penned a lyric for Hotel California: we are prisoners of our own device.
You are free! The cage is unlocked! Free yourself!
